The more partners take the time to check-in with each other, the more satisfied they will be in their relationship and the higher the probability of lasting long-term.

You may not realize it, but what you do at the end of each day can affect the state of your relationship.

According to research, certain bedtime habits can predict whether or not your relationship is likely to last. So it’s super important to be mindful of your nighttime routine, especially if you live together.

Creating a bedtime procedural or routine is important because it increases the likelihood that both partners remain connected and on the same page in terms of the status of the relationship.

The more partners take the time to check-in with each other, the more satisfied they will be in their relationship and the higher the probability of lasting long-term.

Your days can get pretty busy, so setting a few minutes each night to connect and catch up is a great habit for any couple to adopt. Even 10 minutes a night without any distractions can go a long way if made a routine.

You can spend those 10 minutes doing anything you want. But if you’re in need of a little inspiration, research and experts have you covered.

So here are 20 main summarized bedtime rules that can predict if your relationship will last or not, according to research and experts.

  1. Wear something easy to remove, comfortable and sexy. Make the work of your partner easy to peel off your clothes to reveal the naked you. Yummy lingerie, loose boxer. Sleep naked for best results
  2. Brush your teeth to encourage kissing
  3. Don’t carry work to bed
  4. Minimize the use of phones or laptops. Your partner needs attention, the bedroom is sacred
  5. Move the baby to a separate room (if your finances allow you to and you have a home of more than one bedroom) when the baby is of age. The child might have been conceived in the bedroom but is not meant to live in your bedroom that is an exclusive island for two.
  6. Gentleman have that one spot besides her lips you kiss each night; whether it’s her forehead, fingers, shoulders, back or butt. Lady, stroke him with your gentle touch, your fingers speaking love.
  7. Make a habit of praising each other’s body, it makes you both comfortable and relax. Talk those bedroom matters
  8. Pray together before you sleep, and when you wake up
  9. Apologize and forgive if any wrong was done during the day. Don’t sleep with a grudge or anger.
  10. Read your partner’s body language. If you or your partner desires to make love, then rise to the occasion or wet up to the occasion; whether night or morning glory.

    Excited man lying on the bed and laughing with his beloved woman
  11. Have pillow talks, open your heart and lips and talk intimate stuff. Say how you feel; are you troubled, grateful, broken?
  12. Cuddle up when you feel sleep is fast approaching, drown into sleep as your bodies intertwine
  13. Tell each other how much you mean to each other. Your partner never gets enough of your affirmation.
  14. In case one of you farts, laugh about it (some farts are unstoppable)
  15. Cover your partner in case you wake up in the middle of the night and find your partner outside the duvet/ blanket
  16. Kiss your partner when you come back from peeing in the middle of the night
  17. Hold your partner close and pray when your partner wakes up terrified by a nightmare
  18. Give a goodnight and good morning kiss.
  19. Spend some few minutes of love in bed even when the alarm wakes you up
  20. Carry the love you have for each other even when you leave the bed.


My take

When it comes to sleeping habits, it’s safe to say you should take any deeper meanings with a pinch of salt.

Listen to the health and relationship benefits and disadvantages, as they tend to be backed up by science, but don’t stress about the impending demise of your relationship.

You might just prioritize comfort over nighttime closeness, and there’s nothing wrong with that.



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